Courting a woman vs dating
I think a single Christian person using “courtship” to describe their dating life wants to psychologically believe they are doing something a little better, a bit more nobler than merely “dating”.These two words, however, should NOT be used interchangeably.However, if it the courtship does not work out, you have avoid rushing into a marriage that you may likely have regretted later.Courtship, as a process, ensures that all the right steps have been taken and all the right things have been talked about in order to come to the closest conclusion possible that you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life with this person.It is a practice run of making the formal decision to forsake all others on the day you exchange vows.In courtship, you do forsake all others, but not as a vow, but rather as a trial run.You have realized you want to be married and have learned more about yourself and the kind of person you are attracted to from your dating experience. In fact, they unfortunately allow themselves to cheapen their offering by showing they only want to sample, and never purchase. I know a man who told me he goes in there to have lunch by partaking in all the sample stations, and then leaves.As if Costco is in business to hand out free lunches. To “sell” the product they are allowing people to sample.
To say that you are courting someone or are in a courtship is basically to say “I am moving toward potential marriage with this person, and we shall see how it goes.” It also absolutely implies exclusivity with the person.To enter into courtship means to put a hold on considering any other person for marriage in order to focus on determining if this person you are courting is the one to become engaged to marry. To become engaged to a person is to make a decision to marry.Courtship wants to focus only on the person you “think” might be the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.I usually advise couples in courtship to make sure they have taken a good, long road trip together so they can experience all the sides of each other, which a long road trip seems to bring out.If you can endure each other’s faults, quirks, and negatives sides, and still say “I love you! I assume at this point my focus on courtship has provided some insight into what dating is. The best way to describe dating is that it is a sampling process. You spend non-commitment time with the person in order to see if there is an all around attraction to that person enough to move on to “serious dating.” Serious dating is no longer a sampling process.